The Drop-Off: A Guide to Happier Goodbyes

Some children bound into a new classroom without a backward glance. But many others are, understandably, a little more nervous about starting a new school with new friends and new teachers. It’s not only children who have a hard time parting ways for the day: The morning drop off can be hard on adults, too. Luckily, our teachers and staff have a lot of experience with supporting children during the first days at school. (We’ve also provided reassurance and support to many, many parents.) Here are some positive ways to say good-bye at school that will help put everyone at ease. Because when your child is happier, so are you.

Take care of your own feelings. 

If you’re anxious about leaving, your child may start to feel anxious as well. During these early days, think about ways you can ease our own worries about the drop off: Talk with friends or other parents with young children, go to the movies, or go for a walk. Of course, you may still get a little teary-eyed at drop-off and that’s totally fine and completely normal: We get it.

Be an early bird. 

Some children do best when a parent limits the amount of time spent saying good-bye. Other children want the reassurance of a parent’s presence in the classroom until they feel more comfortable. Find what works for you both, and if your child needs more time, arrive early to help him adjust to the transition.

Focus on your child. 

In the bustle of the drop-off—unloading diapers, delivering daily instructions, depositing an extra sweater—it’s easy to get distracted. At drop off, take a little time to focus your attention on your child. Get down at her level and be with her before saying good-bye. This can help her relax and ease her fears.

Take a little time to really say good-bye.

Slipping away while she isn’t looking can make her more anxious when she can’t find you. Let your child know you are leaving and that you will be back. Be clear and matter-of-fact: I’m going to leave in five minutes and go to work. I’ll come back and pick you up after you’ve eaten lunch….

Acknowledge their feelings.

Children show emotion through crying, and it’s normal for them to do so. Acknowledging their emotions is an important part of helping them cope with morning transitions. You might say: I see that you’re sad that I’m leaving. I will miss you too. I’ll be back after you have recess this afternoon to pick you up.

Talk about the good stuff.

Remind your child of the fun things he’ll do that day. Wow! You’re going to paint at the easel today! What do you think you’ll paint? Talk him through the classroom schedule. Routines are comforting for young children, and his worries at school will lessen as he learns what to expect.

Ask for advice. 

Your child’s teachers and centre director have helped many other families just like yours. As the teachers get to know your child, they can direct her to a favorite activity that will help her settle more easily into the classroom. Centre Directors can offer advice if your child needs more support. Be patient as you and your family find your way.

Call us.

Feel free to check in to see how your child’s day is going. Moments after you leave, he may be completely engrossed in building a block tower. Call us! Chances are that he’s doing well, and you’ll have a better day knowing he is having a good day.

If you have had tough transitions, remember that it gets better! Try and have patience—and stay positive—while everyone adjusts. And don’t hesitate to reach out. We’re always happy to talk with you about your concerns so that everyone can have a great drop-off. A few weeks from now, you will walk into the classroom and your child will wriggle out of your arms, ready to start her school day.  You are not alone and you’re doing great.


Source: article used info from Kindercare


Author: kidscape

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